The Importance of Rest and Relaxation for Families with Special Needs Children

Reconnect as a Family

Since vacations were not a big part of my experience growing up, it was Trisha who helped me understand the value of time away as a family. The fact that my daughter has significant special needs hasn't changed this at all - in fact, it has provided a spotlight on the fact that we need time to reconnect and recharge outside the world of "caregiving."

Families with special needs children face a lot of psychological and emotional strain. Everything from routine medical appointments to specialized educational needs contributes to stress and fatigue. Family rejuvenation is vital not only for parents and children.

To me, rejuvenation means relaxation and bonding, and allowing time to step away from ongoing responsibilities. My favorites include:

• Shared outings, whether a grand Disney vacation or cruise or "roughing it" at a campsite

• Family Game Night - the board or video variety if your kids aren't up to "roll the dice."

• Movie nights - especially

• Sharing cooking experiences - baking cookies or perhaps learning a favorite dish

• Enjoying youth sports, even if my oldest can't play on her own, cheering on her sister is always a welcome (if somewhat rare) treat.

By prioritizing rejuvenation, I feel like we've created a homelife that supports emotional well-being. And it didn't happen overnight. As I look back over the past 18 years as parent of a special-needs child, I do wish would have prioritized self-care and rejuvenation sooner. And I don't just mean expensive vacations, though honestly, despite being quite frugal, I have no regrets on the money I spent in theme parks and trips.

Other suggestions include pursuing hobbies, socializing with friends, or enjoying peaceful moments alone. A few hours on the golf course, working out, reading, chatting with a therapist or even playing a favorite video game helps protect parents’ mental health and provides a respite. Refill your tank and do a better job parenting.

Everything helps, but for me, going on a trip is a phenomenal opportunity to rejuvenate. There's something about being out of your day-to-day environment that "resets the clock."

Why Disney is an Ideal Destination

Disney parks are not only the premier vacation destination for families across the nation - but I'd argue they are one of the best experiences for kids with many different special needs. Disney parks show the company's commitment to making sure families of all types have a great time, and they have the resources to prioritize accessibility.

Disney attractions cater to a wide range of physical and developmental needs. The parks incorporate features such as wheelchair accessibility, sensory-friendly areas, and attractions designed to accommodate various disabilities, allowing families to fully participate in the fun without worries.

In my experience of more than 10 trips to Orlando, the staff at the major spots, including Disney, Universal Studios and Sea World are well trained, accommodating and understanding. At Disney, cast members are trained to assist families with special needs, ensuring a seamless experience for visitors. The warm and welcoming attitude of the employees helps create an environment where everyone feels included and valued. This atmosphere can significantly benefit families who often encounter challenges in other settings, making Disney not just a place to visit, but a refuge where they can relax and enjoy each other’s company.

Another important consideration is the variety of experiences offered at Disney parks - you'll be hard pressed not to find a few experiences you can enjoy no matter your age or interests. Sure there are rides for thrill-seekers, but there are also quiet parks, shows and entertainers galore. Most ages and abilities can trade pins, or scout out for silhouettes and hidden Mickys. Sometimes the smallest gestures . . . a wave, a song or a smile are the best mementos we take home from trips, and Disney parks and properties excel at providing these souvenirs.

Cruising: A Perfect Getaway for Families

Cruising has become an ideal vacation option for families, particularly those with special needs children, who seek a healthy dose of relaxation and adventure. The all-in-one accessibility of cruise ships allows families to explore multiple destinations without the hassle of frequent travel logistics. This can be a life-saver for families with disabled or special needs members who might be overwhelmed by the many moving parts involved with traveling to multiple locations, such as transportation and accessible accommodations.

Most cruise lines cater to the needs of special needs guests. They offer amenities such as adapted staterooms for guests with mobility issues, and well-trained and empathetic staff. These accommodations ensure that every family member can enjoy the cruise experience to the fullest, leaving stress behind. Moreover, contemporary cruise ships are equipped with a myriad of activities, from sensory-friendly play areas to engaging entertainment, ensuring that both children and adults have opportunities to unwind and rejuvenate.

Knowing your way around can help, and working with an experienced travel agent can make a world of difference. Whether it's securing early boarding so you can settle into your cabin or advice on where the best elevators are to avoid the busy rush so you can enjoy the best onboard activities, there are certainly ways to make your cruise even more enjoyable. It's also helpful to go "beyond the brochure" when choosing accessible excursions.

In addition, cruises often offer opportunities for the family to "split up" for activities that they're interested in individually. Siblings can enjoy kids' clubs and get some focus on themselves without their special needs brother or sister. In some cases, parents can even have some time to themselves if their special needs child can manage a kids club or childcare service without them.

Dining is another key draw to cruises. Options are often flexible and can cater to dietary restrictions, further simplifying mealtimes for families with special needs children. We've been on at least 5 cruises with my daughter who uses a feeding tube and formula. The staff has always been accommodating and still makes her feel like part of the meal experience.

The Value of Family Time for All Members

Family time serves as a critical anchor for families, particularly those with special needs children. When families prioritize quality time together, it fosters emotional bonds that are essential for well-being. For siblings, engaging in activities with their special needs brother or sister can cultivate empathy, patience, and a deeper connection. This bonding is not only vital for the special needs child but also crucial for siblings, promoting a balanced family dynamic.

Moreover, the act of spending time together allows family members to express love and appreciation, contributing to emotional health and resilience. Engaging in memorable activities—such as family outings, game nights, or even shared meals—can create lasting memories that reinforce family ties. Conversations invite open communication, essential for families facing unique challenges that come with special needs. Through shared laughter and collective achievements, family members experience joy that rejuvenates their spirit, countering stressors that may arise in a caregiving environment.